Heather Eaton – Just One More

Heather Eaton - Just one more

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As a human race we’ve been seriously challenged by a tiny speck of virus that scientists classify as neither organic nor inorganic that has managed to create mayhem and have us re-evaluate our inherent need to socially connect.

So, when I read about one more international traveller who thumbed their nose at the 14-day hotel isolation by casually skipping out of hotel lockdown, this time in the community-transmission COVID-free zone of Perth, it struck me that this person was no different to those in the US who thumbed their nose at the science, at the advice to wear masks and at the lack of evidence that the recent Presidential election was rigged. My immediate thought was they are all victims of a phenomenon that plays havoc with us all at times  … one of ‘mindset’.

A lens or frame of mind which enables us to observe and simplify, at any point in time, a plethora of potential interpretations.

Mindset exists because our brains have an intrinsic ability to take shortcuts – we construct an unconscious dialogue that influences the interpretations of events and information around us. Our mindset provides the framework for these interpretations and can dictate whether we agree or disagree with these interpretations, often leading us to mistake fact from fiction – even in the face of logic and indisputable evidence.

Mindset in action

Our mindsets create our reality. It’s that dialogue in our heads that subconsciously tells us things like:

  • “I’m good at this” or “I’m not good at this”. Ever heard of the ‘imposter’ syndrome where even highly accomplished CEO’s think that one day someone will find out they’re flawed?
  • “There’s no point going on that diet because I always fail”. Actually, many don’t fail at losing the weight – they simply fail at consistency.
  • “We’ve already polluted our world so bad that whatever I do won’t make a difference”.  Actually, we can – and everyone needs to convince just one more person.
  • “I can’t change things I don’t like because that’s who I am, was and always will be”. Gill Kenny’s break-up with alcohol tells me this isn’t true.
  • “If I conform to the rules it proves I’m no different to anyone else”. Perhaps this is how quarantine-skipping interlopers and other COVID non-conformists prove their hollow self-worth.

But my own mindset restricts me whilst I’m researching this topic and I’m not even aware of it until much later.  I was fixated on finding a concise, easy to understand guide on what a mindset is, how we develop one and how it leads us to behave in certain ways.

I thought this would be easy – I’ve pumped out 2000-word lab reports as part of my science degree without too much hassle before – how hard could it be? It seems my mindset has let me down, according to a researcher in Washington State University who found a link between fixed mindsets and overconfidence. Guilty as charged, your honour. The results implied that those with a growth mindset focus more on the challenging aspects of the problem at hand and therefore are more successful.

I knew I had to change my mindset if I were to understand how Mindset actually works.

So, I ploughed through a plethora of scientific studies, a dozen or so TED talks and copious opinion pieces written on Mindset in the last 10 years, barely scratching the surface on my hopeful path to success.

An enlightening TEDtalk by Dr Allia Crum Change your mindset, change the game shared the results of how the placebo effect can shift our mindset and reduce or enhance the perception of post-operative pain depending on whether morphine was administered spontaneously via IV or physically injected by medical personnel. The Yorkshire Ripper murder investigators excluded compelling evidence by having a fixed mindset and effectively enabled additional murders in the late 1970’s.

So if I had a fixed mindset, can there be other mindsets to consider that might transform my thinking on Mindset?  Or change other aspects of my life?  Indeed there are, according to Google….

  •  The Relationships Mindset – in love (or not)
  •  The Social Mindset – you seek company (or not)
  •  The Entrepreneurial Mindset – do you have the traits to grow your company (or not)?
  •  The Follower Mindset – do you allow others to set your life course?
  •  The Diet Mindset – and do you need to ditch it?

And dozens more besides…

But the overwhelming majority of information I found suggests that only two simple mindsets have gained real traction in the scientific community – Growth and Fixed. “THANK YOU”, screamed my Fixed Mindset.

First proposed by prominent Stanford University professor of psychology, Carol Dweckin her 2006 book Mindset: The New Psychology of Success, a fixed mindset suggests our abilities are innate and unable to be improved. A growth mindset enables success even without the skills or experience.

This is all very well if you have a Growth Mindset in the first place.  Or think you do.

But what if you think yours is fixed? Surely this is a blessing and a curse – it’s a miracle if you get to maintain all the innate positives. But a raw deal if it means having to retain all the negatives you’d like to change about yourself, but don’t think you actually CAN.

What makes it more complicated is that we unconsciously seek information that strengthens existing beliefs and reinforces the dialogue we’re familiar with. These confirmation biases therefore serve to maintain our pre-existing mindsets. So a fixed mindset is likely to end in an outright rejection of information that questions our internal dialogue. If our internal dialogue continually whispers that alcohol or a chocolate bar has always made us feel better whenever we’re a bit stressed, it’s no surprise that we fall off the wagon.

Getting our groove on

And this makes me question the whole fixed -v- growth mindset thing. If we are destined to have one or the other, is the playlist in our brain therefore on continuous loop, driving an ever-deeper groove we can’t climb out of? Are we able to EVER change our behaviour and resist toxic substances such as alcohol or diabetes-inducing chocolate bars?  Yet we have solid evidence that we CAN change our behaviour. We DO change behaviour and create a new, healthier groove … as Gill Kenny has demonstrated with over 600 days sober.

So is mindset fixed? Apparently not, because a 2018 study published in the International Journal of Obesity observed that activating a mindset of fullness before eating generated activity in the ventral striatum, part of our brain’s reward systems. A health mindset lit up the left prefrontal cortex responsible for self-control. Researchers reported that all participants, regardless of their weight, chose smaller portions of food when primed with health-related prompts.

What does this all mean, notwithstanding that participants in a controlled study might do completely different things in the privacy of their own home?

It means that mindset, at the very least, can activate either positive or negative responses in our brain, and therefore play some part in changing our behaviour.

So what’s the key to activating a brain response and changing our mindset on something we know is holding us back, such as success in losing weight or ditching the booze? The answer lies, of course, in realisation – the moment we realise that continuing with the same behaviour equals the same result. And when the result no longer serves its purpose, we are more likely to quit our ‘bad’ behaviour and conduct a Mindset Reset.

How might we maintain a Reset? Changing our narrative from self-harm to self-care is perhaps THE most important, especially if it’s related to giving up an addictive behaviour that started early in life. I remember when I finally gave up smoking. The liberation I felt by not worrying about the next nicotine hit was exhilarating. All I did was change my mindset. No patches, no hypnosis, no affirmations, no hesitation. Just a moment of “I’m worth it”.

The quitter’s mindset

Yes it’s a thing, at least in my mind. Because The Quitter’s Mindset resides in every one of us who has ever binge-watched a Netflix series and murmured “It’s just getting interesting, I can’t quit now …. just one more.” We try to quit but have just one more drink, just one more chip, just one more minute in bed, just one more scroll of Facebook.

Perhaps our Quitting Mindset be flipped and harnessed for good? Could we activate a positive response in our brains and flip the narrative to just one more day of not drinking, just one more day and I’m closer my ideal weight, just one more quiet chat with a teenager who needs my guidance, just one more minute at the gym.

This simple Mindset Reset might be just one more step toward achieving healthy goals for mind and body in 2021.  I hope you’ll try it … just one time.

And then just one more.

Heather Eaton lives in Australia and enjoys a portfolio career as a marketing consultant, psychology student, wife and mum. She’s repeatedly amazed at the diversity of people’s behaviour and is in awe of others who manage to stay bright and breezy most of the time whilst juggling the existence we call life. She’s most in awe of anyone who can create music because it caresses the soul like no other earthly manifestation she’s encountered… yet. She’s also in awe of her husband, David, because he’s super-dooper wise.

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